Marriage & Relationship Assessment Tools

Free screening tools for assessing relationship satisfaction/expectations, attachment styles, communication, domestic violence/sex addiction, and more.

Compiled by Cassie Jewell, M.Ed., LPC, LSATP

A list of free online interactive and PDF assessment tools for providers working with couples. (See Free Online Screening & Assessment Tools for additional screening tools.)

Relationship Satisfaction & Expectations

The Companionate Love Scale

Link to a PDF version of this scale to measure companionate love; scoring instructions not included

The Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI)

A 4-page PDF assessment to measure relationship satisfaction; scoring instructions included

Feeling Connected in Your Relationship?

An 18-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral

The Gottman Relationship Checkup

Sign up for a free account to access the online interactive assessment

How Deep Is Your Love? Quiz

A 15-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral

How Strong Is Your Relationship? Quiz

A 10-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral

The Marital Disillusionment Scale

Link to a PDF version of this assessment tool

Marital Satisfaction Survey

A PDF scale to evaluate marital satisfaction; click on link listed in the “Interactive Section for Couples”

The Passionate Love Scale

A PDF tool with scoring instructions

Perceived Relationship Quality Components Inventory (PRQC)

Link to a Word version of this scale to assess six components of relationship quality

Quick Compassionate Love Test

A 6-question interactive test from PsychCentral to assess compassion in a relationship

Relationship Assessment Scale

Link to a Word version of this scale with scoring instructions

The Relationship Expectations Questionnaire

A PDF tool; click on link listed in the “Interactive Section for Couples”

Sternberg Triangular Love Test

A 45-question interactive test from PsychCentral to assess intimacy, passion, and commitment

The Sustainable Marriage Quiz

A 10-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral

Attachment Styles

The Attachment Style Assessment

Interactive tool for assessing how you attach to romantic partners; you must submit your email to see your results

Attachment Styles and Close Relationships

Interactive surveys to determine attachment style

Diane Poole Heller’s Attachment Styles Test

Interactive assessment; you must submit your email to see your score

Measure of Attachment Qualities

Measures adult attachment styles (PDF)

Romantic Attachment Quiz

A 41-item quiz from PsychCentral to help you determine your romantic attachment style in relationships

Vulnerable Attachment Style Questionnaire (VASQ)

Links to PDF version of questionnaire and scoring instructions

Communication

The 5 Love Languages

A PDF assessment for assessing primary love “languages”

Interpersonal Communication Skills Inventory

A PDF self-assessment designed to provide insight into communication strengths and areas for development. Includes scoring instructions.

Interpersonal Communication Skills Test – Abridged

Interactive test from PsychCentral

Learn Your Love Language

An online quiz for couples to determine primary love language(s). (You are required to enter your information to get quiz results.)

Nonverbal Immediacy Scale

Online interactive tool for assessing differences in the use of body language when communicating; printable version here

Open DISC Assessment Test

Online interactive tool for assessing your communication style

Self-Perceived Communication Competence Scale

Printable scale with scoring instructions

Willingness To Communicate

Printable assessment with scoring instructions

Willingness To Listen

Printable assessment with scoring instructions

Domestic Violence & Sex Addiction

Danger Assessment Screening Tool

Clinicians can download a PDF version of this assessment, which helps predict the level of danger in an abusive relationship; this screening tool was developed to predict violence and homicide.

Domestic Violence Assessment Tools

Five assessments from the Domestic Shelters site

Domestic Violence Screening Quiz

Interactive test from PsychCentral to determine if you’re involved in a dangerous abusive relationship

Sexual Addiction Quiz

A brief screening measure from PsychCentral to help you determine if you are struggling with sexual addiction

Additional Relationship Assessment Tools

20 Question Self-Assessment for Healthy Boundaries

Download a PDF assessment created by Dr. Jane Bolton; scoring instructions not included

Brief Index of Sexual Functioning for Women (BISF-W)

Subscription required to access assessment tool

Desire to Have Children Scale

Link to a Word version of this scale

Emotional Intelligence Quiz

An online interactive test to measure how well you read other people

Empathy Quiz

An online interactive test to measure empathy

Evaluations of Attractiveness Scale: Female Attractiveness | Male Attractiveness

Online interactive tests for assessing preferences

Ideal Partner and Ideal Relationship Scales

Link to Word scales to assess ideal partner attributes and ideal relationship qualities

Interactive Behavioral Couple Therapy Questionnaires

5 downloadable PDF assessments for couples

Jealousy Instrument

Link to a PDF version of this instrument; scoring instructions not included

Love Attitudes Scale

Link to a Word version of this scale that measures different love styles; scoring instructions included

Marital Forgiveness Scale-Event | Marital Forgiveness Scale (Dispositional)

Links to PDF versions of scales with scoring instructions

Marital Offense-Specific Forgiveness Scale

Link to a PDF version of this scale; scoring instructions not included

Perceptions of Love and Sex Scale

Link to a Word version of this scale with scoring instructions

The Relational Assessment Questionnaire

Link to a PDF version of this questionnaire (with scoring instructions) to measure relational aspects of self

Relationship Trust Quiz

An online interactive tool

Respect Toward Partner Scale

Link to a Word version of this scale (with scoring key)

Romantic Partner Conflict Scale (RPCS)

Link to a PDF version of this scale with scoring instructions; Word version also available

The Sexual Disgust Inventory

PDF scale with scoring instructions

The Spann-Fischer Codependency Scale

A 16-item scale (PDF) to measure codependency

Susceptibility to Infidelity Instrument

Link to a PDF version of this instrument and information on scoring

Trust Scale

PDF tool for assessing trust within close interpersonal relationships