50 Free Marriage & Relationship Assessment Tools

(Updated 8/29/22) This is a list of free marriage and relationship assessment tools to use with couples in marriage and family counseling for assessing relationship satisfaction/expectations, attachment styles, communication, domestic violence/sex addiction, and more.

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See Free Online Screening & Assessment Tools for additional screening tools.

Marriage & Relationship Assessment Tools

Relationship Assessment Tools for Satisfaction & Expectations

• The Companionate Love Scale | Link to a PDF version of this scale to measure companionate love; scoring instructions not included
• The Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI) | A 4-page PDF relationship assessment tool to measure satisfaction; scoring instructions included
• Feeling Connected in Your Relationship? | An 18-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral
• The Gottman Relationship Checkup | Sign up for a free account to access the online interactive assessment
• How Deep Is Your Love? Quiz | A 15-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral
• How Strong Is Your Relationship? Quiz | A 10-question interactive quiz from PsychCentral
• The Marital Disillusionment Scale | Link to a PDF version of this assessment tool
• Marital Satisfaction Survey | A PDF relationship assessment scale to evaluate marital satisfaction; click on link listed in the “Interactive Section for Couples”
• The Passionate Love Scale | A PDF tool with scoring instructions
• Perceived Relationship Quality Components Inventory (PRQC) | Link to a Word version of this scale to assess six components of relationship quality
• Quick Compassionate Love Test | A 6-question interactive test from PsychCentral to assess compassion in a relationship
• Relationship Assessment Scale | Link to a Word version of this scale with scoring instructions
• The Relationship Expectations Questionnaire | A PDF tool; click on link listed in the “Interactive Section for Couples”
• Sternberg Triangular Love Test | A 45-question interactive test from PsychCentral to assess intimacy, passion, and commitment
• The Sustainable Marriage Quiz | A 10-question interactive relationship assessment quiz from PsychCentral

Attachment Styles

• The Attachment Style Assessment | Interactive tool for assessing how you attach to romantic partners; you must submit your email to see your results
• Attachment Styles and Close Relationships | Interactive surveys to determine attachment style
• Diane Poole Heller’s Attachment Styles Test | Interactive assessment; you must submit your email to see your score
• How We Love: Love Style Quiz | Determine your love “style” (attachment)
• Measure of Attachment Qualities | Measures adult attachment styles (PDF)
• Romantic Attachment Quiz | A 41-item quiz from PsychCentral to help you determine your romantic attachment style in relationships
• Vulnerable Attachment Style Questionnaire (VASQ) | Links to PDF version of questionnaire and scoring instructions

Communication

• The 5 Love Languages | A PDF assessment for assessing primary love “languages”
• Interpersonal Communication Skills Inventory | A PDF self-assessment designed to provide insight into communication strengths and areas for development. Includes scoring instructions.
• Interpersonal Communication Skills Test – Abridged | Interactive test from PsychCentral
• Learn Your Love Language | An online quiz for couples to determine primary love language(s). (You are required to enter your information to get quiz results.)
• Nonverbal Immediacy Scale | Online interactive tool for assessing differences in the use of body language when communicating; printable version here
• Open DISC Assessment Test | Online interactive tool for assessing your communication style
• Self-Perceived Communication Competence Scale | Printable scale with scoring instructions
• Willingness To Communicate | Printable assessment with scoring instructions
• Willingness To Listen | Printable assessment with scoring instructions

Domestic Violence & Sex Addiction

• Danger Assessment Screening Tool | Clinicians can download a PDF version of this assessment, which helps predict the level of danger in an abusive relationship; this screening tool was developed to predict violence and homicide.
• Domestic Violence Assessment Tools | Five relationship assessments from the Domestic Shelters site
• Domestic Violence Screening Quiz | Interactive test from PsychCentral to determine if you’re involved in a dangerous abusive relationship
• Sexual Addiction Quiz | A brief screening measure from PsychCentral to help you determine if you are struggling with sexual addiction

Additional Relationship Assessment Tools

• 20 Question Self-Assessment for Healthy Boundaries | Download a PDF assessment created by Dr. Jane Bolton; scoring instructions not included
• Brief Index of Sexual Functioning for Women (BISF-W) | Subscription required to access assessment tool
• Desire to Have Children Scale | Link to a Word version of this scale
• Emotional Intelligence Quiz | An online interactive test to measure how well you read other people
• Empathy Quiz | An online interactive test to measure empathy
• Evaluations of Attractiveness Scale: Female Attractiveness | Male Attractiveness | Online interactive tests for assessing preferences
• Ideal Partner and Ideal Relationship Scales | Link to Word scales to assess ideal partner attributes and ideal relationship qualities
• Interactive Behavioral Couple Therapy Questionnaires | 5 downloadable relationship assessments for couples
• Jealousy Instrument | Link to a PDF version of this instrument; scoring instructions not included
• Love Attitudes Scale | Link to a Word version of this scale that measures different love styles; scoring instructions included
• Marital Forgiveness Scale-Event | Marital Forgiveness Scale (Dispositional) | Links to PDF versions of scales with scoring instructions
• Marital Offense-Specific Forgiveness Scale | Link to a PDF version of this scale; scoring instructions not included
• Perceptions of Love and Sex Scale | Link to a Word version of this scale with scoring instructions
• Post Betrayal Syndrome® Quiz | Online tool, email signup required for results
• The Relational Assessment Questionnaire | Link to a PDF version of this questionnaire (with scoring instructions) to measure relational aspects of self
• Relationship Trust Quiz | An online interactive tool
• Respect Toward Partner Scale | Link to a Word version of this scale (with scoring key)
• Romantic Partner Conflict Scale (RPCS) | Link to a PDF version of this scale with scoring instructions; Word version also available
• The Sexual Disgust Inventory | PDF scale with scoring instructions
• The Spann-Fischer Codependency Scale | A 16-item scale (PDF) to measure codependency
• Susceptibility to Infidelity Instrument | Link to a PDF version of this instrument and information on scoring
• Trust Scale | PDF tool for assessing trust within close interpersonal relationships

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