A Meaning of Life: Chasing an Impossible Dream of Wellbeing

Guest Post: Introducing a New Resource for Wellness

When we started A Meaning of Life (AMoL), the idea felt at once impossible and completely sane. Impossible because of its scope: to understand human wellbeing in its depth, nuance, and complexity. Sane because—really—what could be more practical than trying to understand what makes life worth living, and then sharing that understanding so others might put that wisdom into practice?

This project began with Randall, our founder, who broke his neck as a teenager, becoming quadriplegic. On the edge of death, Randall chose life—not just to continue living, but to live it fully and to share what he could about how to do so with others.

Decades later—after becoming a PhD psychologist, father, and living a life of many twists and turns—there was no silver bullet. The scientific insights were scattered, the practical applications were fragmented, and the guidance was often oversimplified. Out of that gap came a dream: to create a resource that could bring clarity, evidence, and practical insights together as one.

That dream became A Meaning of Life—a nonprofit and ever-growing library of practical-yet-science-based wisdom for a well-lived life. Today, our website hosts nearly a thousand pages of resources, organized so that it’s personal to you, and you can explore the factors that shape wellbeing in a way that is both grounded in research and deeply human.

Mapping the Web of Wellbeing

At the heart of our project are a handful of helpful mental models: each one takes a different angle of approach to map out the complex, interconnected elements that contribute to a flourishing life. There is the Happiness section, which clarifies the broken concept of wellbeing through both complex and simple lenses—complex like accounting for the inherent tangles in the web of researching wellbeing and providing an overview of Positive Psychology’s leading models, and simple like offering wellbeing in four basic elements: Pleasure, Flow & Engagement, Perspective, and Meaning in Life (the fourth and most important element).

And there are the four Cornerstones of Meaning, each cornerstone itself being a collection of factors that play a role in wellbeing. For most factors of wellbeing (there are 50 identified across the site), readers find detailed infographics, exercises, and curated web resources to guide their journey of learning wellbeing as a skill that can be practiced.

Some of the factors of wellbeing are well-known to most, like Gratitude, Friendship, and Curiosity. Others are easily overlooked, like Happiness as a Hindrance, Listening, and Clean Communication.

Each section of the site explores one of these factors in depth. For example, our Purpose section doesn’t just define the concept; it presents empirical research, practical exercises, and pathways to integrate it into daily life, making your dream life more life-like. It even has a deep-dive workbook for transforming one’s life into one that is rich with purpose.

Our goal isn’t to reduce wellbeing to a single formula, but to show its complexity—and to empower people to explore it in a way that resonates with their own lives.

From Theory to Practice: The Assessment Center

One of the resources we’re most excited about is our Assessment Center. This is where theory meets practice. Visitors can take evidence-based psychological assessments to measure every one of those 50+ factors of wellbeing, identifying which ones are strengths and which are growth zones. This is an incredible tool in its own right, and when paired with the content on AMoL, it can guide people towards what areas of life to study to get the biggest results on their wellbeing.

The assessments are more than just self-discovery, too. The data (always anonymized) has the potential to fuel research, giving psychologists and social scientists valuable insight into what well-being looks like across diverse populations. In other words, every visitor who takes an assessment isn’t just learning about themselves—they’re helping build a collective picture of human flourishing. And we’re committed to making the data free and open to researching… we are a 501c3 non-profit, and we stand by that intent.

We’re especially hopeful about the long-term research potential. Imagine being able to see, at scale, how gratitude impacts resilience, or how value alignment predicts life satisfaction. The Assessment Center opens the door to that kind of knowledge.

Visual Models for a Complex World

We know that wellbeing can feel abstract, so we’ve invested in creating visual models and infographics to make the science more accessible.

For example, our Crisis of Meaning infographic addresses the modern crisis that many people can feel, but few people have considered in detail.

Our visuals, fridge sheets, and printable exercises aren’t just decorative—they’re teaching tools. They’re designed to spark insight, conversation, and reflection, helping people see the bigger picture while also noticing the threads most relevant to their own lives.

Why We Believe This Matters

In a world overflowing with quick-fix self-help advice, our approach might seem unusual. We don’t promise instant happiness or one-size-fits-all answers. Instead, we embrace complexity. We honor nuance. We believe that cultivating a good life is a lifelong practice, grounded in science but enriched by story, art, and humanity.

And we believe this work matters because the stakes are high. Rates of anxiety, depression, and loneliness are climbing. Many people feel disconnected—from others, from purpose, from themselves. In that context, our mission to explore and share the building blocks of wellbeing isn’t just an intellectual exercise. It’s an act of care.

Looking Ahead

We know our dream is ambitious. Sometimes it feels daunting to be building something so wide-reaching as a small nonprofit. But when we hear from people who found comfort in our pages, it reminds us why this work is worth it.

Our hope is that A Meaning of Life can serve as both a mirror and a guide: a mirror that helps people see their own strengths and challenges more clearly, and a guide that points toward practices and perspectives that support flourishing.

An Invitation

If our mission resonates with you, we invite you to explore A Meaning of Life for yourself. Browse our pages. Try out a few assessments in the Assessment Center. Share our resources with a client, a student, a friend, or a family member.

And most importantly, reflect on what you find. Because at the end of the day, the dream we’re chasing isn’t just about knowledge—it’s about transformation. It’s about helping people cultivate lives of greater meaning, connection, and joy. And we’re all on the journey toward that dream together.


Resources for Love, Sex, & Relationships

Navigating love, intimacy, and relationships isn’t always easy—but it’s essential for our wellbeing. Whether you’re exploring your identity, healing from past experiences, improving communication with a partner, or just trying to understand yourself better, this collection of resources for love is here to support you. Below, you’ll find workbooks, guides, and tools that cover everything from setting boundaries and enhancing emotional intimacy to understanding consent and sexual health.

These resources are designed to empower people of all identities and relationship styles to create healthier, more fulfilling connections—with others and with themselves.

Disclaimer: All external content is the property of its respective creators. I am not responsible for the accuracy, content, or availability of linked materials. Please adhere to all copyright laws when using or sharing these resources.

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Resources for Love: Date Night

Learn your love languages!

Spin the wheel for date night ideas with this free randomized date idea wheel.

Use this free date night questions generator site for a mix of fun, deep, and romantic questions to! get to know your partner better. For even more questions, see 200 Questions for Couples.

Visit this online planetarium for some star-gazing from home at any time of the day or night.

Find (and agree on!) something memorable to do together with Cobble.

Create a couples bucket list.

View famous works of art from home with Colossal, an epic online art magazine worth exploring.

Resources for Love: Celebrate & Memorialize Your Love

Create a timeline of your love story to include important milestones.

Tell your story with LoveBook or use free Canva templates to create a digital scrapbook.

Use this fun site to generate the perfect love letter! (You can also generate date ideas!)

Create a custom relationship meme with this free meme generator.

Sex Education

Beducated Beducated offers free trial lessons on topics like tantric sex, sensual massage, oral sex techniques, and more. Courses are high-quality and video-based.

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. If you’ve read Come As You Are, you know Emily Nagoski is one of the most influential voices in sex education. Her website features videos, worksheets, podcasts, and guides on sexual desire, body image, and pleasure science.

OMGYES While mostly paid, this evidence-based, pleasure-positive site offers free videos and science-backed insights into women’s pleasure. Great for couples looking to learn, not just guess.

Pleasure Mechanics Tons of free podcast episodes, guides, and email series on everything from sensual touch to kink curiosity. Smart, shame-free, and queer-inclusive.

Sexplanations with Dr. Doe A playful, science-based series of short YouTube videos covering everything from orgasms to aftercare to erotic novelty. Smart and entertaining—watch together and discuss after.

The Vulva Gallery An artistic, body-positive project that showcases real stories and illustrations of vulvas in all their diversity. A beautiful, affirming way for couples to explore body image, anatomy, and curiosity without shame.

Healthy Communication


Questionnaires & Assessment Resources for Love, Attachment, Boundaries, & Communication

21 Questions to Test How Well You Really Know Your Partner | From childhood nicknames and stinging disappointments to least favorite smells.

Attachment Styles and Close Relationships | Interactive surveys to determine attachment style

Boundaries Quiz | Interactive quiz

Communications Style Questionnaire | Determine if you’re an activist, a pragmatist, a theorist, or a reflector (PDF with scoring instructions)

Communication Style Quiz | PDF assessment (page 3) (Source: Ball State University: Mind Matters)

Couples Satisfaction Index (CSI) | PDF assessment to measure relationship satisfaction

Emotional Needs Questionnaire | 12-page PDF (Source: Willard F. Harley, Jr./Integral Psychology) (1986)

Fear of Relationship Commitment Test | Interactive assessment (Source: Queendom)

Feeling Connected In Your Relationship? | Interactive quiz (Source: PsychCentral)

Giver/Taker Test | Interactive test (Source: PsychTests)

Gottman Relationship Checkup | Sign up for a free account to access the online interactive assessment

How Deep Is Your Love? | Interactive quiz (Source: PsychCentral)

Learn Your Love Language | Choose your version: Couples, Children’s Quiz, Teens, or Singles. An online assessment to determine your primary love language. (You are required to enter your information to get quiz results.)

Marital Satisfaction Scale | PDF assessment to evaluate marital satisfaction; click on link listed in “Interactive Section for Couples”

Quick Compassionate Love Test | Interactive quiz (Source: PsychCentral)

Relationship Attachment Style Test | Interactive test (Source: Psychology Today)

Relationship Attachment Style Test | Interactive test (Source: PsychTests)

Shared Meanings Questionnaire | 3-page PDF (Source: Dr. John M. Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman/Integral Psychology)

Sustainable Marriage Quiz | Interactive quiz (Source: PsychCentral)

Therapist-Recommended Reads for Couples

Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life


The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts


Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert


Resources for Love: Booklets & Guides

Resources for Love: Workbooks

Resources for Love: Worksheets & Handouts

Supplementary Materials

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