50 Unique Gifts for Therapists in 2023

This is a list of 50 fun, clever, and unique gifts for therapists, counselors, social workers, and other dedicated mental health workers in 2023.

The role of a therapist is a demanding one, requiring empathy, patience, and a deep understanding of human behavior. While showing appreciation for a counselor’s dedication is always a thoughtful gesture, finding the perfect gift can be a challenge.

This post provides ideas for gifts for therapists and is the third installment of a series I publish annually. (For additional gift ideas from previous years, see 50 Unique Gift Ideas for Therapists in 2022 and 50 Unique Gift Ideas for Therapists.)

The gifts for therapists featured in this post are inspired by items that I, as a counselor, find useful and meaningful, along with unique products that address the needs and wishes I see in other mental health workers.


Similar to last year, many of the products featured here can be purchased on Amazon. What’s new and different this year is that I’ve discovered Temu (thank you, TikTok!), an online marketplace that sells “affordable, quality products from millions of sellers, manufacturers, and brands around the world.”

While Temu products are generally cheaper than goods from Amazon, the quality factor is hit-or-miss. The Temu gifts for therapists listed in this post meet my standards for quality, but it’s important to note there’s no guarantee they’ll come from the same manufacturer.

Also, I’ve included unique gifts that can only be found on Uncommon Goods, an independently-owned business that sells one-of-a-kind goods from artists all over the world. I support the company’s “force for good” business model; Uncommon Goods is environmentally conscientious, gives back to the community, and prioritizes employee wellbeing.


Here is the highly anticipated 2023 list of 50 fun and unique gifts for therapists and other mental health professionals:

50 Unique Gifts for Therapists in 2023

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Gifts for Therapists Under $10

1. Cleaning Gel

This cleaning gel is an essential tool for any therapist, providing a quick and easy way to maintain a clean and hygienic workspace. Its unique formula effectively removes dust, crumbs, and other debris from keyboards, ensuring that they remain functional for typing up notes and reports.

2. Coffee Mug Warmer

If you’re anything like me, you know the struggle of reaching for your coffee only to find it lukewarm. This beverage warming device is the solution to microwaving the same cup of coffee again and again. With this mug warmer, your beverage stays at the perfect temperature, making it a great gift for the coffee- or tea-loving counselor in your life.

3. Coping Skills Makeup Bag

This adorable and colorful coping skills makeup bag doubles as a pencil case, making it a pretty and practical accessory for counselors.

4. Feelings Wheel Pin

This compact color-coded feelings wheel displays a spectrum of emotions and is equipped with a tiny spinning arrow. The six main categories of feelings – Calm, Strong, Happy, Mad, Sad, and Fear – are further divided into subcategories for identifying more precise emotions. The interactive wheel can be pinned to a bulletin board and used as a visual tool to help clients identify, verbalize, and explore their feelings in therapy sessions.

5. ‘I’ll Be There for You’ Sticky Notes

This is the one where the Friends-fan counselor gets an awesome Friends-themed gift!

6. Little Box of Badass: Embrace Your Awesomeness with Style

In her refreshingly blunt You Are a Badass®, Jen Sincero served up candid and inspiring stories, sage advice, and the occasional swear word, all with the goal of helping readers reverse self-sabotaging behaviors and create a life of love. This little kit is perfect for the badass counselor in your life (as well as a fun tool for their clients!)

7. Phrenology Cat: Read Your Cat’s Mind!

Do you know a cat-loving counselor who needs this?

8. Phrenology Dog: Read Your Dog’s Mind!

No? What about a dog-loving therapist?

9. Therapist Key Chain

Not only is this keyring the thriftiest of featured gifts for therapists, it’s a charming and thoughtful token that serves as a tangible expression of appreciation, making it an ideal gift for any therapist or guidance counselor. Its meaningful message will remind them of the significance of their work and the positive impact they have on the lives of others.

Books & Educational Gifts for Therapists

10. The Adult Psychotherapy Progress Notes Planner

“Documentation dread” is real, and it’s something we as therapists can all relate to. This fantastic planner helps ease that dread by enabling practitioners to quickly and easily create progress notes. (And the less time we spend documenting, the more time we have for what really matters – our clients!)

11. DSM-5-TR Overview: A QuickStudy Laminated Reference Guide

This handy DSM-5-TR reference guide is a top seller on Amazon for its practicality and usefulness. It serves as an invaluable tool for mental health professionals, providing quick access to diagnostic criteria and essential information for accurate and informed assessment. This convenient guide is a must-have for any therapist.

12. The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness

What makes a life fulfilling and meaningful? The simple but surprising answer is: relationships. The invaluable insights in this book emerge from the revealing personal stories of hundreds of participants in a Harvard research study as they were followed year after year for their entire adult lives, and this wisdom was bolstered by research findings from many other studies.

13. NCMHCE Exam Prep 2024-2025: NCMHCE Study Material & Practice Questions for the National Mental Health Counseling Exam

These flash cards were developed by Test Prep Books for test takers trying to achieve a passing score on the NCMHCE exam. This is another practical and useful gift for the recently graduated counselor who is studying for the NCMHCE.

14. Seven & a Half Lessons About the Brain

Have you ever wondered why you have a brain? Let renowned neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett demystify that big gray blob between your ears. In seven short essays (plus a bite-size story about how brains evolved), this slim, entertaining, and accessible collection reveals mind-expanding lessons from the front lines of neuroscience research.

Novelty Gifts for Therapists

15. ‘But Did You Document It?’ Wooden block Sign

This fun gift attests to “documentation dread” (refer to #10). The rustic wooden block is made from high-quality materials and will look great as a shelf-piece in any office.

16. ‘The Doctor Is In’ Pin

This playful Peanuts ‘Psychiatric Help’ brooch is cute and cheap!

17. F-Bomb Paperweight

Did you know that swearing is good for your mental wellbeing? This paperweight is the perfect gift for the therapist who loves to swear.

18. Freudian Sips Coffee Mug

This clever mug features Freud (i.e., the “Father of Psychology”) sipping from a cup with a speech bubble reading, “When you say one thing but mean your mother.” The mug comes in a colorful box perfect for gift-giving.

19. Fun Face Stress Ball

Not only does this squishy face stress ball relieve stress, it’s scented too!

20. Mini Himalayan Mood Lamp

This 2-1/4-inch Himalayan mood lamp rotates through a full spectrum of colors, each associated with a different mood or emotion to create feelings of tranquility and peace in any working or living space.

21. NIRMAN Handmade Wooden Nose Shaped Eyeglass Holder with Mustache

This whimsical spectacle holder is highly rated on Amazon for its charm and quirky design. Handcrafted with durable, lightweight materials, it’s the perfect desk accessory for any therapist who wears glasses; their spectacles will always be within reach, the frustration of misplacing them eliminated.

22. Party Freud: A Comical Group Therapy Game

Sigmund Freud once said, “Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.” What about being honest with everyone else? In this lighthearted game of analysis, players score points by giving the best responses and advice.

23. Pavlov’s Cat T-Shirt

Unlike Pavlov’s dog, Pavlov’s cat is no drooling fool for a bell. He awaits the sound of the can opener! This is the perfect gift for the cat-loving counselor in your life.

24. Mini Zen Garden Litter Box

And here’s yet another cat-themed gift…

25. Work-from-Home Survival Kit

The Work-from-Home Survival Kit is a fun and clever gift is for the private practice counselor who works remotely. Of the nine items included, a few are functional (ear plugs, webcam cover), others are just-for-fun (conference call bingo card, decision coin: pajamas or pants?), and the rest are in-between (fidget cube, desk yoga guide). 

Therapy Tools & Games

26. The Anxiety Thumball: The Fun Group Activity for Learning to Cope with Anxiety & Worry

This fun Thumball helps players learn coping skills for anxiety while increasing social skills and having fun. It’s great for individual or group counseling with groups of all sizes.

27. Conversation Tic-Tac-Toe Set

These conversations blocks are sure to be excellent conversation starters. They’re also useful social skills and emotional learning tools, as well as icebreaker tools for therapists and counselors.

Click here for icebreaker question cards, a free alternative that you can print and cut yourself.

28. The Grief Companion Deck

There are innumerable ways to love – and to grieve – when we’ve lost someone we love. This thoughtfully curated deck recognizes that “one-size-fits-all” doesn’t work for the grieving process. The cards are grouped into three categories: Action, Insight, and Prompt, and are a useful tool for therapists supporting clients with grief and loss.

29. Life Sutra Couple Reconnect Cards

The Life Sutra Couple Reconnect card deck was designed by Dr. Tania Sharma to enhance relationships by promoting deeper conversations. These cards are the perfect gift for the couples counselor in your life!

30. Mindfulness Dice

This set of six color-coded blocks contains 36 practices and thousands of possible combinations. Therapists can use these handy dice to help their clients discover calming meditations, positive mantras, soothing movements, controlled breathwork, mind-boosting journaling, and wellness goals… or as a part of their own self-care plan!

31. Mindful Talk Card Deck

The Mindful Talk question cards promote authentic conversations with children; they’re a great tool for school counselors and family therapists.

32. Overcome Expanded: Addiction Recovery Questions

These cards are designed to help lead conversations about feelings, behaviors, triggers, and ways to control addictive impulses. Addiction counselors can use the cards in group or individual counseling sessions.

For a free alternative, click here for a DIY deck that you can print and cut yourself.

33. YEHUA! Totika Self-Esteem Cards & Totika Cube

The Totika Therapy Game Self-Esteem Question Deck contains 150+ open-ended questions regarding self-confidence, motivation, role models, setting goals, and overcoming life challenges. It’s appropriate for kids, teens, and adults, and is the perfect gift for any therapist.

Office Accessories & Decor

34. CBT ‘Challenging Negative Thoughts’ Canvas Art

CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy) involves challenging irrational thoughts and replacing them with more realistic (and positive) beliefs. Socratic questioning is one technique that therapists use to encourage this process. This bold canvas is the perfect gift for any CBT practitioner.

35. Everlasting Stained-Glass Succulents

These beautiful handmade succulents are the perfect gift for the committed therapist who tirelessly attends to their clients’ needs… and in doing so, forgets that their plants need care too!

36. Grounding Metal Tin Sign

Grounding techniques help with distressing thoughts by bringing one’s focus to the present moment. This attractive sign depicts the 5-4-3-2-1 method, a grounding technique that’s both simple and effective.

37. LED Grow Light

Fun fact: My very first office was no bigger than a walk-in closet and, like most closets, had no windows. If you know a counselor whose office is similarly lacking in natural light, consider gifting them this handy LED lamp that mimics sunlight. (Their plants will thank you.)

38. Living Art Succulent DIY Kit

The Living Art Succulent DIY Kit will bring living beauty to any office or workspace. The succulents create an easy-to-care-for work of art.

39. Meditative Sand Wonderscape

With its intricate detail, this handmade wonderscape beckons clients to create mesmerizing patterns in the sand. The sculpture-like balls, with their weighted stability and textured surfaces, provide a soothing massage to the palm and fingertips. This captivating office accessory not only enhances the decor but also serves as a therapeutic tool for grounding and calm.

40. ‘Note to Self’ Door Sign

This colorful set of mental health affirmations can be hung on the door or wall, inspiring positivity and self-compassion.

41. ‘What Would You Attempt’ Paperweight

This thought-provoking pewter paperweight boldly and simply poses the question, “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” It’s a powerful reminder of the possibilities that lie within each of us, and a fitting addition to any therapist’s office. Beyond its aesthetic appeal, it serves as a conversation starter, encouraging clients to explore their deepest aspirations and dreams.

42. ‘What You Say In Here’ Metal Tin Sign

This little tin sign helps to create a safe space while serving as a reminder of the limits of confidentiality. It’s a great gift for school counselors and family therapists.

Self-Care Gifts for Therapists

43. Acupressure Neck Relief Cushion

Self-care is one of the first things counseling students are taught in grad school; in order to care for others, we must first take care of ourselves. Stress management is an important aspect of self-care; this acupressure cushion targets points in the head and neck to release stress-induced tension.

44. Calm Essential Oil Roll-On Blend

Aromatherapy is another great way to relieve stress. This easy-to-use roll-on blend can be applied anywhere at any time to instantly promote feelings of relaxation and calm.

45. Cuddly Stuffed Highland Cow

Who doesn’t need this?

46. Desk Yoga Card Deck

Yoga is an amazing self-care tool; it enhances both physical and mental wellbeing. With this nifty card deck, the busy therapist can engage in 52 simple practices during the workday, all conveniently from their desk.

47. Eucalyptus Headache & Sinus Pillow

This soothing pillow is filled with a natural blend of eucalyptus, mint, and flax seeds, and features an organic cotton leaf design on the front and pure silk on the back.

48. Foot Spa-in-a-Box Gift Set

Each foot spa set includes a detoxifying charcoal foot scrub, soothing moisturizer, rubber foot massage ball, and medical-grade gel toe separators. This pampering gift is perfect for counselors or anyone with weary feet!

49. Mental Health Embroidery Kit

After being diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder in 2017, Emily June turned to embroidery to keep her hands busy and mind occupied, and found “the therapeutic joy of stitching.” This kit is a creative and meaningful gift for the crafty counselor in your life.

50. Self-Care Truth-or-Dare

This novel approach to self-care offers 100 truths – or dares – on 50 sticks. Each stick has a thought-provoking question on one side and a challenging but achievable dare on the other. Gift your favorite counselor this fresh perspective on self-care, encouraging them to embark on a journey of personal discovery and growth.


Do you have ideas for gifts for therapists? Share in a comment below!


5 Ways to Embrace Self-Love with a Lovelock

The self-lovelock is a powerful symbol of self-compassion and healing, a reminder that you are worthy of love

Have you ever crossed a bridge and seen the sides covered in tiny padlocks? These little “lovelocks” are a global phenomenon, and they can be found on bridges in large cities all over the world. You can also find them on fences, sculptures, lampposts, etc. Nowadays, pretty much anything that will sustain a lock is fair game.

Some of the locks have initials, names, or hearts carved into them, and they are latched there by couples to symbolize their love and commitment to each other. Then, the key is thrown away to represent their unbreakable bond; a padlock that will remain locked forever.

The Lovelock Tradition

The tradition of lovelocks is thought to have originated in the early 1900s in Serbia, where an unfortunate young woman, Nada, lost her lover. He went to war in Greece and fell in love with another woman, leaving Nada to die of heartbreak. As a result, the women in the town started protecting their love by inscribing their names and the names of their loved ones on locks and fastening them to the bridge where Nada would meet with her lover. The tradition has since become a trend in countries all over the world.

One of the most famous lovelock destinations is located in Paris: the Pont des Arts bridge. The Parisian tradition started around 2008 shortly after it gained popularity in Italy, where it was made fashionable by the Italian film I Want You. Subsequently, 6 years later in 2014, part of the Pont des Arts collapsed under the weight of over 700,000 padlocks.

The damaged structure was rebuilt with glass panels, leaving no way to attach locks. City officials came up with other creative (non-damaging) ways for couples to express their devotion, such as taking selfies and posting them with the hashtag #lovewithoutlocks. Lovers still travel from all over to see the bridge and pledge their love to each other.


The idea of a lovelocked bridge in Paris is romantic. But when I was there going through a marital separation, I developed a distaste for the practice. The locks seemed like a superficial way to show love, and I couldn’t help but see them as a symbol of broken promises. I also thought about the weight of the locks, both figuratively and literally.

The “I Love You” Wall

I didn’t pay a visit to the Pont des Arts, but I visited the Wall of Love, also known as the “I Love You” Wall, which features the phrase in over 300 different languages. The wall is located in Paris’s Jehan-Rictus Square and was created by the artist Frédéric Baron. The “I Love You” Wall is where my cynical thinking started.

A photo I took of the “I Love You” Wall in Paris

The area was crawling with street merchants selling lovelocks, their cries of “A lock for your love!” screeching in my ears.

Fed up with being hassled to buy a 20-euro lock (the sort a 10-year-old girl might use for protecting secrets in her diary), I imagined various scenarios in which I would respond to the next merchant with feigned earnestness: “Do I get a refund if he breaks up with me?” “Do you have divorce ones? And those would be half-priced, right?” “Will it work on a stranger, or do they have to already be in a relationship with me?” “Is there a limit on how many I can use at once?”

I would pick away at the symbolism and absurdity of the lovelock, all to entertain myself.

Love-mocks, Love-blocks, Love-shocks

Although truly, what happens when a “lovelocked” couple breaks up, a relationship ends, or a once-happy marriage falls apart? For example, does Mary “cheated-on-by-her-now-ex-husband” Smith think about their traitorous lovelock somewhere out there, once a metaphor for love, now symbolic of what could have been or perhaps just a symbol of grief? The lovelock tradition is seen as a romantic gesture, but for some, the lovelock becomes a reminder of a lost love, a source of pain or sadness.

And how many of the lovelocks out there are representative not of love but failed relationships, abusive partnerships, or broken hearts? The stats aren’t great. More than 85% of dating relationships lead to breakups and most daters feel like their dating lives aren’t going well or that it’s hard to find people to date. The average length of a relationship is less than 3 years. The average marriage lasts approximately 8 years, and nearly half of first marriages end in divorce with even higher divorce rates for second and third marriages.

What’s more, who’s to say that the people who stay together are in a healthy partnership? 1 in 4 women experience sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner. In fact, every minute that goes by, 20 people on average are physically abused by a partner in the United States.

So really, how many of those locks represent love? It’s not romantic; it’s tragic.

And then, think about all the lovelocks that were removed to prevent structural damage, as was the fate of hundreds of padlocks at Pont des Arts. Or, what if your lock was one of the padlocks that led to structural collapse. What does that symbolize? That love is a destructive force or one that isn’t meant to last?

Finally, I thought about the dark side of the “forever locked” concept. By throwing away the key, couples are essentially locking themselves into the relationship. This could be a dangerous thing, as people and relationships change over time. Should love be viewed in such finite terms?

The Self-Lovelock

Love is not a lock. In fact, there’s nothing less romantic than thinking about a relationship as a prison. True love is given freely, no strings (or locks) attached, and it’s not binding. Not only that, but the lock concept limits the potential of love by viewing it as an object. Love is not a thing, but an experience that is shared. It can’t be forced or coerced; it’s something we choose.

This is when the realization came that a lovelock may still have a beautiful purpose, for while some loves are temporary, there is a type of love that should be the “forever” sort. Self-love should be protected and nurtured at all costs. No matter what happens in life, as long as you’re living, it’s worth investing in yourself. Besides that, self-love is the foundation of all other relationships.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”

Oscar Wilde

After my epiphany, I was inspired to remake the lovelock concept in a way that would promote self-love. Here are five fun and creative ways you can embrace self-love with a lovelock:

1. Keep the key

Buy a lock and decorate it with your own personal touch or have it engraved to your liking. When you travel to a meaningful place, attach your lock to something that will last, perhaps a landmark or a bridge. But keep the key.

The key is a symbol of your power. It’s a reminder that you hold the key to your happiness and fate. You can choose to dwell on your mistakes or to forgive yourself, learn, and move forward. It’s up to you.

The key is a symbol of your worth. The key can also remind you that no one can make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them. You hold the key to your sense of self and your self-worth. Keep the key close, wear it as a necklace, or put it somewhere safe as a daily reminder that you are in control of your life. Let it remind you that you are worthy of love and respect.

2. Keep the lock too

Another option is to keep both lock and key. This is a more sustainable way to participate in a self-lovelock tradition, and it has a deeper symbolic meaning.

The lock represents your self-love, while the key represents your commitment to it. By keeping both, you are reminding yourself that you are worthy of love and that you are committed to loving yourself unconditionally.

Once again, you can wear as jewelry or keep in a safe place that you can see as a daily reminder. Let it remind you of your commitment to self-love and of the importance of loving yourself first.

3. Create your own self-love tradition

Find a special place that you can visit regularly to reaffirm your commitment to self-care. Perhaps it’s somewhere in nature, a place that brings you peace, a spot that holds fond memories, or even a place you’ve created specifically for this purpose.

Once a year, attach a new lock to this place as a symbol of your ongoing journey of self-love. You can do this alone or with a loved one, as long as the experience is meaningful to you.

Be sure to choose a place that is likely to remain accessible to you for years to come. This way, you can return to whenever you need a reminder of your commitment to self-care.

4. Give lovelocks freely

When you practice self-compassion, you’re better prepared to meet the challenges of life, knowing that you can count on yourself. Your capacity to love others actually increases. By choosing to love yourself unconditionally, you’ll have more compassion for those around you.

Lovelocks are symbols of self-love. When you see someone who is struggling, offer them a lovelock as a gesture of kindness and support. Share about the concept of a self-lovelock and how it can serve as a daily reminder to slow down, attend to needs, and practice self-compassion. Let them know that they are not alone.

5. Share the self-love message with others

Leave a self-lovelock on a bridge or other structure where lovelocks are common. This is a great way to spread the message of self-love and to inspire others to embrace their own worth.

Personalize your lock with a message about self-love. You can write or engrave your lock with a quote, a mantra, or simply the words “self-love.”

Leave the key in the lock or even leave an extra lock so that others can take it if they need it. This is kind gesture showing that you are willing to share your love with others.

Your self-lovelock will be a reminder to others that they are worthy of love and happiness. It will serve as an inspiration to all who see it.

Final Thoughts

To close, I’m not actually against the idea of lovelocks. They can be a fun and cute gesture, but they are ultimately just that: a gesture. They can be easily broken or lost and they’re not a guarentee of love or committment.

I believe that the self-lovelock is different; it’s a powerful symbol of self-compassion and healing. It is a reminder that you are worthy of love, and it can be a source of motivation when we are struggling.

I think there should be a Wall of Self-Love. This would be a place of inspiration where people could share their self-affirmations, messages of support, and mantras that have helped them through tough times. It would serve as a powerful reminder that it is not selfish to care for yourself, and that you should be proud to share this message with others.


References


15 Sites with Free Coloring Pages for Adults

This is a list of free printable coloring pages and books for adults. Color to relax, improve your mood, increase mindfulness, and reduce stress!

(Updated 2/6/23) Coloring can significantly improve your mental health and wellbeing. Research indicates that coloring reduces anxiety symptoms, enhances mindfulness, improves mood, and reduces stress. Coloring may also serve as a tool for self-reflection and self-awareness.

This is a list of printable coloring books and free coloring pages for adults.


15 Sites with Free Coloring Pages for Adults

1. Therapeutic Coloring Book

A 35-page PDF coloring book from Rec Therapy Today. Most of the coloring sheets are images of animals, including a panda, a peacock, a Pegasus, a dolphin, and more!

Art to be art must soothe.

Mahatma Gandhi

2. Relaxing Patterns Coloring Book

Another PDF coloring book from Rec Therapy Today (53 pages). Free coloring pages consist of swirls, shapes, flowers, and other designs.

3. Coloring Pages for Adults (from Faber-Castell)

A modest collection of printable free coloring sheets. Color a bird mandala or an enchanted fairy! There are also several holiday-themed coloring pages.

4. Adult Coloring Book for Mindfulness and Relaxation

A 51-page PDF coloring book with 31 mandala designs from the site Healing from Burnout. The coloring book includes 8 bonus templates for creating your own designs!

5. Stay Well, Stay Inspired

A 16-page coloring book with uplifting quotes and writing prompts from the American Library Association.

6. Coloring Craze Books

A collection of coloring books from Coloring Craze. The books aren’t free, but you can download sample free coloring pages. Books include Motivational Quotes & Phrases, 30 Day of the Dead Coloring Pages, and Stress Relieving & Relaxing Patterns series.

7. #ColorOurCollections

A collection of free coloring books from libraries and other cultural institutions from around the world. Download and print coloring pages from the New York Academy of Medicine Library, the Getty Research Institute, the Folger Shakespeare Library, and many more!

8. Louise Lawler

Photographer Louise Lawler worked with children’s book illustrator Jon Buller to create this unique 12-page coloring book. Each page is a black-and-white version of one of her photographs of places where art is displayed.

9. A Mathematical Coloring Book

A 38-page coloring book by Marshall Hampton with mathematical models and geometric structures (such as the Sierpinski triangle).

10. Monday Mandala

An ad-free site with printable mandala coloring sheets. You can also sign up for their email to receive free coloring pages in your inbox!

Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time.

Thomas Merton

11. Adult Coloring Pages (from Crayola)

A small collection of printable coloring sheets. Choose from designs such as “Art with Edge Sugar Skulls,” “Lennon and McCartney Yellow Submarine,” or “InSPIRALed.”

12. Coloring Castle

Free coloring sheets, including mandalas. Additional categories include holidays, animals, food, nature, space, sports, etc. Great for kids too!

13. Super Coloring

Free coloring sheets and books to print. You can download coloring books like “Forest Animals,” “Zentangle Horses,” “Beautiful Women Portraits,” and “Floral Fantasy” (among others) or print coloring pages (including color-by-number!) from a variety of categories (mammals, fruits, fantasy, stories, space, etc.)

14. Just Color

Printable free coloring pages for adults. Categories include: mandalas & art therapy, nature, travels, art, history & stories, and special events.

15. The Public Domain Review Coloring Book for Diversion, Entertainment, and Relaxation in Times of Self-Isolation, Vol. 1

Free downloadable coloring book (from the Public Domain Review site) with 20 images from a wide range of artists, including Hokusai, Albrecht Dürer, Harry Clarke, Virginia Frances Sterrett, Jessie M. King, and Aubrey Beardsley.


Bonus: Best Adult Coloring Books: How to Download Free Printable Coloring Pages from Museums Around the World

Links to additional sites with free coloring pages, including coloring pages representing the works of famous artists. (Thank you to Anna Fox for submitting this resource!)

free coloring pages

For more free resources, visit Free Printables.


References

  • Babouchkina, A., & Robbins, S. J. (2015). Reducing negative mood through mandala creation: A randomized controlled trial. Art Therapy, 32(1), 34-39.
  • Bell, C. E., & Robbins, S. J. (2007). Effect of art production on negative mood: A randomized, controlled trial. Art Therapy24(2), 71-75.
  • Curry, N. A., & Kasser, T. (2005). Can coloring mandalas reduce anxiety? Art Therapy, 22(2), 81-85.
  • Eaton J., & Tieber, C. (2017). The effects of coloring on anxiety, mood, and perseverance. Art Therapy, 34(1), 42-46.
  • Henderson, P., Rosen, D., & Mascaro, N. (2007). Empirical study on the healing nature of mandalas. Psychology of Aesthetics, Creativity, and the Arts, 1(3), 148–154.
  • Muthard, C., & Gilbertson, R. (2016). Stress management in young adults: Implications of mandala coloring on self-reported negative affect and psychophysiological response. Psi Chi Journal of Psychological Research21(1), 16-28.
  • Small, S. R. (2006). Anxiety reduction: Expanding previous research on mandala coloring. The Undergraduate Journal of Psychology19(1), 15-21.
  • van der Vennet, R., & Serice, S. (2012). Can coloring mandalas reduce anxiety? A replication study. Art Therapy, 29(2), 87-92.

26 Awesome Therapist Bucket List Items

This therapist bucket list has 26 professional development and achievement ideas for counselors and mental health professionals.

The Merriam-Webster definition of a bucket list is “a list of things that one has not done before but wants to do before dying.” This post is a therapist bucket list with 26 professional achievement ideas for counselors and other mental health workers!

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.

Mahatma Gandhi

Therapist Bucket List

26 Professional Achievement Ideas for Counselors and Other Mental Health Workers

1. Earn an advanced degree or certificate.

2. Become licensed in your state.

3. Start a nonprofit organization or charity for mental health.

4. Specialize.

5. Open a private practice.

6. Conduct and publish a research study.

7. Write a magazine or newspaper article.

8. Develop and validate an assessment tool.

9. Become president or chairperson of a professional organization.

10. Write and publish a book, workbook, guide, or manual.

11. Develop a new theory/model or treatment intervention.

12. Create and maintain a website.

13. Become a teacher or professor.

14. Run for public office.

15. Become a mentor or clinical supervisor.

16. Develop an online course or training program.

17. Organize and/or facilitate a seminar or workshop.

18. Start a podcast.

19. Develop a mobile app.

20. Write a bill for mental health reform.

21. Start a mental health or counseling YouTube Channel.

22. Develop and moderate a Facebook group for mental health professionals.

23. Advocate by organizing and leading a peaceful protest for reform.

24. Win an award.

25. Present in a TED Talk.

26. Inspire positive change!


To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to.”

Kahlil Gibran

For additional ideas for professional growth, see Professional Development for Counselors and Characteristics of an Effective Therapist.

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17 Self-Care Ideas for Mental Health Professionals

Prevent burnout and combat compassion fatigue with these 17 self-care ideas and strategies for therapists.

A recent study found that many mental health professionals do not recognize their own burnout. For therapists and other mental health workers, self-care is essential for preventing burnout and compassion fatigue.

Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.

Parker Palmer

This is a list of self-care ideas and strategies for mental health professionals. Please share with anyone who might benefit!


For additional self-care ideas, see 11 Self-Care Ideas You May Not Have Considered and Self-Care Strategies When Your Loved One Has an Addiction.


Self-Care Ideas for Mental Health Professionals

1) Take small breaks throughout the day. Spend a few moments sitting in silence, browse funny memes, joke with a coworker, or take your lunch outside; by the end of your workday, you won’t feel as drained.

2) Meditate. Spend at least 5-10 minutes a day, in the morning or between sessions, meditating or listening to guided imagery recordings.

3) Schedule an appointment weeks in advance for a facial or massage. You’ll have something to look forward to!

4) Don’t neglect your basic needs. Drink water, choose healthy foods, exercise, and get plenty of sleep.

Don’t take your health for granted. Don’t take your body for granted. Do something today that communicates to your body that you desire to care for it. Tomorrow is not promised.

Jada Pinkett Smith

5) Reach out to people in your support network. When experiencing burnout, we have a tendency to think we’re weak or less capable. We may struggle to admit what we’re going through. However, seeking support during these times is more important than ever.

6) Don’t bring your work home with you. It can be difficult to not think about the problems a client is experiencing or to check your email, but it’s crucial to have balance in your life. If you let your work consume you, you’ll soon find yourself depleted and with nothing to give.

7) Take the time to sincerely thank or praise your colleagues. Sometimes, it seems as though we’re in a thankless field. Spread positivity by expressing gratitude and giving compliments. (I also like to pass along the praise I hear for someone else!)

8) Be kind to yourself. Be realistic. Practice positive self-talk and forgive yourself for the mistakes you make. Acknowledge that you’re not always going to know the right thing to say, nor will you be able to help every client you see.

Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.

Brené Brown

9) Treat yourself to your favorite beverage at least once a week. Enjoy a Starbucks coffee or a kombucha tea during the workday. Consider surprising a coworker with one too!

10) If you work in a shared office space or residential setting, get up and communicate in-person instead of sending an email. (You can always follow-up with an email to recap the convo if needed.) Human interaction throughout the day is far more rewarding than staring at a screen.

11) Take a short “nature bath”! Multiple studies have found that being outdoors improves mood and reduces stress. If you work in an urban setting, nurture a potted plant or listen to nature sounds in your office to promote relaxation.

12. Bring your furry friend to work. Pets make us happy; one study found that having a dog in the office made a positive difference by reducing stress and making the job more satisfying for other employees.

13) Update the lighting in your office. Natural light exposure in the office is linked to a better quality of life. If possible, take advantage of sunlight during the day by keeping the blinds open.

14. Find self-care ideas online. I recommend the Self-Care Starter Kit from University at Buffalo School of Social Work and Dr. Kristen Neff’s Self-Compassion site.

I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.

Kristen Neff

15. Stretch! Yoga is known to reduce stress and improve mood. Take a class or simply practice stretching exercises throughout the workday.

16. Listen to music while typing your notes. I love paperwork… Said no therapist ever. Play your favorite tunes to motivate you and make the time pass quickly.

17. Immerse yourself in quiet with a silent commute. After listening to talk all day long, it’s soothing to listen to absolutely nothing on your way home. Recharge with silence.


Post your favorite self-care strategies in a comment!

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For more self-care ideas, visit 11 Self-Care Ideas You May Not Have Considered.


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37 Powerful Therapy Metaphors

Effective analogies to illustrate growth, self-care, emotions, addiction, grief, counseling, and life concepts

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As a counselor, you probably have a few “go-to” therapy metaphors that you use in sessions. For example, the “airplane oxygen mask” metaphor is a powerful analogy that demonstrates the significance of meeting your own needs before attempting to help others.

Another example of a therapy metaphor is the “rearview mirror” analogy. If you’re driving, and your entire concentration is on what’s behind you, you’ll crash. Good drivers, in contrast, focus ahead, but also regularly check the rearview mirror. The “rearview mirror” metaphor effectively illustrates how recovery from drugs and alcohol requires learning from, but not dwelling on, past mistakes and regrets.

Powerful Therapy Metaphors: Analogies in Counseling

The following is a list of helpful therapy metaphors and analogies for growth, self-care, emotions, addiction, grief, counseling, and life.


For additional therapy metaphors, click here.

For commonly used therapy questions and phrases, see Do You Speak Therapist?


Metaphors for Growth & Self-Care

Forming a new habit is like carving a path in the jungle. You trod through the undergrowth and take the same route over and over again, until a clear path is formed. Meanwhile, older pathways become overgrown and wild, disappearing from sight with unuse.

A habit forms the way water carves a new stream or river.

You can’t see the grass growing, but after a week or so, you can see that the lawn needs mowing.

You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Mind the “check engine” light in your car. It indicates that something is wrong; if you ignore it, the problem will likely become worse. The longer you ignore internal cues, the greater the damage to your “car.”

A plant requires the right amount of water, sunlight, and fertilizer to grow and thrive.

You are a battery that needs to be recharged every so often.

Metaphors for Emotions

Our emotions are like a thermometer in the window. You can see clouds or rain or sun, but without a thermometer, you won’t know if it’s 90 degrees or 17 below. Emotions impact how you experience the outside world.

Life is like a heart monitor; there are ups and downs. If it goes flat, you’re dead.

The more you bottle up your emotions, the more likely you are to explode.

Repressing anger is like stuffing trash in a garbage can. Eventually, it’s going to spill over if you don’t take out the trash.

When you resent someone, it’s like drinking poison and expecting them to die.

Anxiety is a hungry monster that gets bigger when you feed it.

Worrying is like riding a stationary bike; you can peddle as hard as you can, but you’ll never get anywhere.

Therapy Metaphors for Addiction

Addiction is a disease of the soul.

When you’re in active addiction, you’re a shadow of yourself.

Addiction is like being in a toxic relationship. It’s all-consuming, lust-worthy, and even thrilling at times… but at the cost of your health and well-being. You have to break up in order to move on with your life.

Addiction is like a tornado, ravaging everything in its path. After the storm, it’s time to rebuild. It won’t look exactly the way it did before the tornado hit… but there’s potential for things to be even better.

Addiction is like other chronic health conditions in that there’s no cure, but it’s 100% manageable with treatment and lifestyle changes.

The longer you sit and stare at a plate of cookies, the more likely you are to give in to temptation. Set yourself up for success by avoiding triggers when possible.

If you hang out in a barber shop long enough you’ll end up getting a haircut.

Temptation is like a muscle that grows weaker with use until it finally gives out.

Living life without drugs or alcohol is like any skill; you first learn how to do it and then you have to practice. You may slip up, but don’t give up; learn from your mistakes. You can’t excel at anything without practice.

Cravings are like waves; ride them out until the wave recedes.

Attempting to save someone from drowning is dangerous. In their frantic efforts for oxygen, they’ll claw over and push the person trying to help underwater. This is an unconscious survival instinct. When your loved one is in active addiction, they’ll fight anyone and anything that gets in their way of a gulp of air.

Metaphors for Grief

Grief is a deep wound that takes time to heal. The wound is raw and painful, but will eventually scab over, although leaving behind a permanent scar.

Every person you lose takes a little piece of you with them.

Metaphors for Counseling

Going to therapy is akin to filling your toolbox with tools.

In a car, your therapist is a passenger in the front seat, but you’re behind the wheel. A passenger offers assistance with reading the map and providing directions, but it’s up to you to choose the turns you’ll take, and ultimately, the destination.

A counselor doesn’t provide the answers, but offers the tools to find them.

Going to therapy is like going to the gym; you may feel sore and you won’t see immediate effects, but the long-term results are gratifying and well-worth the investment.

Therapy Metaphors for Life

Problems in life are like bad smells; you can attempt to mask them or cover them up, but you have to remove the source before they can truly go away.

You can’t choose the canvas or paint in life, but you decide the picture you’ll paint.

Your life is a book with many chapters and pages. Every day is a new page. You write your own story.

Life is like a “choose your own adventure” book. You make decisions, but you can’t always predict the outcome.

Sometimes you’re dealt a really sh**** hand. How are you going to play your cards?

The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions.


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Workout to Stay Fit During the Lockdown

Two simple workout programs for home; no gym required!

Crazy things are happening all around the world at the moment. The pandemic, lockdowns, riots… In times like these, it’s crucial that you keep your mind sharp and healthy. But in many places, gyms have not reopened. And not everyone has the luxury of owning a home gym.

If you lack access to a gym (home or otherwise), fear not! You will be amazed at how fit you can get with little (or no) equipment if you put your mind to it! This article reviews ways you can workout at home (minus the weights and fitness machines).

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How to Stay in Shape During the Lockdown

Beginner Workout Program 

Warmup: 

2-3 minutes of walking or riding the bike

Use this time to start your day off right. Go outside (weather permitting) and walk or ride your bike to warm up. If staying inside is your only option, walk in place or walk around your home.

Workout: 
  • 30 seconds squats – 30 seconds rest
  • 30 seconds planks – 30 seconds rest
  • 30 seconds pushups – 30 seconds rest 
  • 30 seconds lunges – 30 seconds rest 
  • 30 seconds sit-ups – 30 seconds rest 
  • 30 seconds Superman – 30 seconds rest 

–> Repeat this routine 2x. 

Cooldown:

2-3 minutes of walking or slow biking 


Intermediate Workout Program 

Warmup: 

2-3 minutes of walking or biking

Workout: 
  • 20 burpees – 30 seconds rest 
  • 30 close-grip pushups – 30 seconds rest 
  • 20 Bulgarian lunges (10 left, 10 right) – 30 seconds rest 
  • 30-second plank – 30 seconds rest 
  • 40-second side plank (20 seconds left, 20 seconds right) – 30 seconds rest
  • 30 seconds mountain climbers – 30 seconds rest 
  • 30 seconds Superman – 30 seconds rest

–> Repeat this routine 2x.

Cooldown: 

2-3 minutes of walking or slow biking 


Adjusting Your Workout Program 

Both of the above workout programs can be easily modified to be less difficult or more challenging. Below, I will explain how you can experiment to adjust the difficulty of your workout program and ways you can experiment if you are getting bored. Sometimes, changing things up is necessary to maintain motivation.

Reduce or increase rest times. Reducing or increasing rest times will make the workout harder or easier. 
 
Increase or decrease the reps and sets. The amount of reps refers to how many times you repeat the same motion for one set. For example, bench pressing 100 kg (220.5 lbs) five times in a row counts as five reps. The amount of sets refers to how many times you repeat a number of reps. For example, bench pressing 100 kg (220.5 lbs) five times in a row counts as one set. You can do multiple sets of the same exercise after you take a short rest.
 
Increasing the amount of reps and sets makes the workout harder while decreasing makes it easier.  

Adjust the way you do certain exercises. Most exercises can be made harder or easier. For example, pushups can be done on hands and toes, the traditional way, but can also be performed on hands and knees. Alternatively, they can be done with your feet raised on a bench, making them harder.

Squats can be done with or without weights. If regular squats are too easy, you can perform single-leg squats to increase the difficulty of the exercise.

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Add or decrease the number of exercises. You can also add or remove exercises from your routine to alter the level of difficulty. Exercises should be added as your level of training advances.

Consider adding the following exercises to a workout program:

  • Chin-ups
  • Jumps
  • Dips
  • Step-ups
  • Spider crawls
  • Single-leg squats

The exercises listed above are just a few examples to add to your workout in order to make things trickier or for a nice change of pace if things get boring. Don’t hesitate to add your own exercises; get creative! Just be sure to perform any exercise with the correct form in order to prevent injuries.


Why Are These Workouts Effective?

The workout programs in this article are compound exercises. Compound exercises are exercises or movements that target multiple large muscle groups at the same time. (For example, squats are compound exercises that target the legs in addition to the back and abdominal muscles, among others.) With compound exercises, you get more “bang for your buck.” The core of any training program should always consist of compound exercises.

High-intensity interval training. This means your heartrate increases and stays elevated for prolonged periods of time. We accomplish this with exercises of a certain level of intensity and by keeping rest periods between the exercises relatively short.

Strength, endurance, and mobility combined into one workout. With these workouts you will become stronger because you use your own body weight as resistance and your endurance will increase because your heartrate goes up with this high-intensity interval training style. Your mobility will increase as well because you will be utilizing a full range of motion.

Easy, even for individuals lacking prior experience.

Easily adjustable workout routines. Multiple ways to adjust the templates to make your own workout more challenging or less difficult.  

Convenience and value. No equipment or gym memberships required; a cheap and easy path to fitness. Both exercise programs require little time and can be performed at home. No drive to the gym. What’s not to like?

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Closing Thoughts 

In comparing the workouts, the biggest differences between the beginner and intermediate programs are the amount of exercises, the difficulty level, and the overall volume. Rest times are initially the same because everyone’s cardiovascular health is different, but should be adjusted for each individual.

Keep in mind that the workout programs are templates only; they provide general guidelines that can be adjusted for fitness and training level as well as individual differences. For example, one person may struggle with pushups while another has difficulty with squats. Prior experience and recent injury or illness should be taken into account. You can reduce or increase reps/sets or perform alternate versions of an exercise, such as performing pushups on hands and knees if the traditional pushup is too hard.

The common stigma that you need a lot of fancy equipment or heavy lifting to stay in shape is not necessarily true. While exercises that utilize body weight only may not lead to bulging muscles, they will lead to fitness and you being in great shape as you lose fat and gain strength.

Getting in a quality workout with the current lockdown regulations is challenging, but with some knowledge and determination it can certainly be done!


Author: Kevin Mangelschots, Writer & Occupational Therapist

Kevin Mangelschots is a writer and occupational therapist with seven years of experience in the field of physical rehabilitation. He is a long-time fitness enthusiast. Kevin lives in Belgium and writes about general health with a specific focus on mental health and self-improvement on his blog, healthybodyathome.com


 

5 Quick & Easy Mood Boosters

A list of 5 strategies for boosting your mood and improving your overall wellbeing

Need a boost? Here is a list of five evidence-based, instant mood boosters for when you’re feeling down.

Click here for additional tips to improve mood and reduce stress.


5 INSTANT MOOD BOOSTERS

Listen to music

Turn on the radio or search for your favorite song on YouTube. Music can evoke a powerful emotional response. Listen to something upbeat with a positive message to boost your mood. Music activates areas in the brain that are responsible for processing emotions.

“Music produces a kind of pleasure which human nature cannot do without.” 

Confucius

In one study, participants who listened to upbeat music while actively trying to feel happier experienced improved mood as well as increased happiness over the next two weeks.

A 2017 study indicated that listening to your favorite songs impacts the brain circuit involved in internally focused thought, empathy, and self-awareness. Interestingly, it doesn’t matter what type of music you choose; the mood-boosting effect is consistent across genres.

Music may also play a role in restoring neuroplasticity or as a therapeutic intervention. In 2013, researchers found that listening to uplifting concertos from Vivaldi’s Four Seasons was linked to enhanced cognitive functioning. An additional benefit to listening to music is improved mental alertness; memory and attention in particular may be enhanced.

Find a green space

Go hiking, find a sunny spot to sit outside, or simply open the window and listen to the sound of the rain falling. According the U.S. Forest Service, spending time in nature can reduce stress, improve mood, reduce anger/aggressiveness, and increase overall happiness. If you’re upset or frustrated, you’ll recover more quickly in a natural setting, such as a forest. Nature is a highly effective mood booster!

Alternatively, consider a stroll in the park for a boost. Researchers found that individuals with depression who took an hour-long nature walk experienced significant increases in attention and working memory when compared to individuals who walked in urban areas. Interestingly, both groups of participants experienced similar boosts in mood; walking in an urban area can be just as effective!

More recently, researchers found that people who regularly commute through natural environments (i.e. passing by trees, bodies of water, parks, etc.) reported better mental health compared to those who don’t. This association was even stronger among active commuters (walking or biking to work). If you commute through congested or urban areas, consider an alternate route, especially when you’re feeling down.

Spending time outside does more than just improve your mood. A 2018 report established a link between nature and overall wellness. Living close to nature and spending time outside reduces the risk of type II diabetes, cardiovascular disease, premature death, preterm birth, stress, and high blood pressure. Exposure to green space may also benefit the immune system, reduce inflammation, and increase sleep duration.

Read/view something inspiring or humorous

Do you have a favorite inspirational book or collection of poems? Do you like viewing motivational TED Talks? Do you enjoy comedy shows? Maybe you like watching videos of baby goats or flash mobs on Facebook. (I do!)

One study found that viewing cat videos boosted energy and positive emotions while decreasing negative feelings (such as anxiety, annoyance, and sadness). Internet cats = Instant mood boost. However, if cyber cats are not your thing, search around to find something enjoyable to read or watch for your happiness quick-fix.

Plan your next adventure

I’m happiest when I’m traveling the world. Unfortunately, I have limited vacation days (as well as limited funds), which means I don’t get to travel as often as I’d like. Happily, planning a trip may produce the same mood-boosting effects as going on a trip.

In 2010, researchers found that before taking a trip, vacationers were happier compared to those not planning a trip. A 2002 study indicated that people anticipating a vacation were happier with life in general and experienced more positive/pleasant feelings compared to people who weren’t. In both studies, researchers attributed happiness levels to anticipation. (The brain releases dopamine during certain activities, causing us to feel pleasure. Dopamine is also released in anticipation of a pleasurable activity.) For a mood boost, start planning!

Cuddle a pet

Spending time with your fur baby will instantly boost your mood. According to research, pets are good for your mental health. Teens undergoing treatment for drug and alcohol abuse experienced improved mood, positive affect, attentiveness, and serenity after brushing, feeding, and playing with dogs.

A 2018 study indicated that dog therapy sessions reduced stress and increased happiness and energy in college students. Earlier this year, researchers found that just 10 minutes of interaction with a pet reduced stress by significantly decreasing cortisol (a stress hormone) levels.

Other studies suggest that animal-assisted therapy reduces anxiety and loneliness and combats homesickness.

Research also indicates that pets help seniors and older adults cope with physical and mental health concerns. Dog ownership is also linked to better cardiovascular health and a longer life.

“Happiness is a warm puppy.”

Charles M. Shultz

The next time you’re having a bad day, listen to your favorite song, go hiking in the woods, watch a TED Talks, start planning your next vacation, or spend some quality time with a furry friend… you’ll feel better!

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5 Effective Self-Care Strategies for Addiction in the Family

Self-care is not a luxury; it’s necessary for survival when your loved one has a substance use disorder. By taking care of yourself, you gain the energy and patience to cope with your problems. Self-care promotes wellness and emotional intelligence; it puts you in a better space to interact with your loved one. Strategies include developing/building resilience, practicing distress tolerance, keeping perspective, and recognizing/managing your triggers.

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When your loved one has a substance use disorder (SUD), it can be overwhelming, distressing, and all-consuming. When we’re stressed, we forget to practice basic self-care, which in turn makes us even less equipped to cope with the emotional chaos addiction generates. This post is about self-care strategies for when your loved one has an addiction.

In the book Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (A Guide for Families), the authors discuss the importance of self-care. This post reviews the authors’ recommended self-care strategies.

(Side note: I strongly recommend reading Beyond Addiction if your loved one has an SUD or if you work in the field. This book will increase your understanding of addiction and teach you how to cope with and positively impact your loved one’s SUD by using a motivational approach. This is one of the best resources I’ve come across, especially for family members/significant others.)

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Based on the premise that your actions affect your loved one’s motivation, taking care of yourself is not only modeling healthy behaviors, it’s putting you in a better space to interact with your loved one. Chronic stress and worry make it difficult to practice self-care. Self-care may even seem selfish.

However, by taking care of yourself and thus reducing suffering, you gain the energy and patience to cope with your problems (and feel better too). Furthermore, you reduce the level of pain and tension in your relationships with others, including your loved one with a SUD.

Self-care strategies include developing/building resilience, practicing distress tolerance, keeping perspective, and recognizing/managing your triggers. Therapy and/or support groups are additional options.

“An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly.”

Unknown

Self-Care Strategies When Your Loved One Has an Addiction

Resilience

The definition of resilience is “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties” (Oxford Dictionary). Doctors Foote, Wilkens, and Kosanke wrote that having resilience is a way to “systematically reduce your vulnerability to bad moods, lost tempers, and meltdowns.”

While you cannot “mood-proof” yourself entirely, resilience helps when facing life’s challenges, setbacks, and disappointments. To maintain resilience, one must practice at least the most basic self care practices, which are as follows:

  1. Eat well
  2. Sleep well
  3. Exercise enough
  4. Avoid mood-altering drugs (including alcohol)
  5. Treat illness (with prescribed medications, adequate rest, etc.)
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Self-care is not something you can push in to the future. Don’t wait until you have more time or fewer obligations. Self-care is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. The authors of Beyond Addiction pointed out that self-care is something you have control over when other parts of your life are out of control. If you find it challenging to implement self-care practices, tap into your motivations, problem-solve, get support, and most of all, be patient and kind with yourself.

“Taking care of yourself is the most powerful way to begin to take care of others.”

Bryant McGill

Distress Tolerance

On tolerance, Doctors Foote, Wilkens, and Kosanke suggested that it is “acceptance over time, and it is a cornerstone of self-care.” Tolerance is not an inherent characteristic; it is a skill. And like most skills, it requires practice. However, it’s wholly worth the effort as it reduces suffering. By not tolerating the things you cannot change (such as a loved one’s SUD), you’re fighting reality and adding to the anguish.

Self-care strategies and techniques for distress tolerance include distracting yourself, relaxing, self-soothing, taking a break, and creating positive experiences. (The following skills are also taught in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), an evidence-based practice that combines cognitive behavioral therapy techniques and mindfulness. For additional resources, visit The Linehan Institute or Behavioral Tech.)    

Distract Yourself

  1. Switch the focus of your thoughts. The possibilities are endless; for you, this could mean reading a magazine, calling a friend, walking the dog, etc. The authors of Beyond Addiction suggested making a list of ideas for changing your thoughts (and keeping it handy).
  2. Switch the focus of your emotions. Steer your emotions in a happier direction by watching corgi puppies on YouTube, reading an inspirational poem, or viewing funny Facebook memes. The writers of Beyond Addiction suggested bookmarking sites in your Internet browser that you know will cheer you up.
  3. Switch the focus of your senses. This could mean taking a hot shower, jumping into a cold pool, holding an ice cube in your hand, walking from a dark room to one that’s brightly lit, looking at bright colors, listening to loud rock music, etc. Also, simply walking away from a distressing situation may help.
  4. Do something generous. Donate to your favorite charity, pass out sandwiches to the homeless, visit a nursing home and spend time with the residents, express genuine thanks to cashier or server, etc. By redirecting attention away from yourself (and directing energy toward positive goals), you’ll feel better. In Beyond Addiction, it’s noted that this skill is especially helpful for individuals who tend to ruminate. Also, it’s important to brainstorm activities that are accessible in the moment (i.e. texting a friend to let them know you’re thinking about them) that don’t take multiple steps (such as volunteering).
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Relax

“Body tells mind tells body…” Relaxing your body helps to relax your mind. It also focuses your thoughts on relaxing (instead of your loved one’s addiction). What helps you to relax? Yoga? A hot bath? Mindful meditation? (I recommend doing a mindful body scan; it’s simple and effective, even for the tensest of the tense, i.e. me.)

Soothe Yourself

In Beyond Addiction, self-soothing is described as “making a gentle, comforting appeal to any of your five senses.” A hot beverage. Nature sounds. A cozy blanket. A scenic painting. Essential oils. A cool breeze. A warm compress. A massage. Your favorite song. Find what works for you, make a list, and utilize as needed. Seemingly small self-care strategies can make a big difference in your life by creating comfort and reducing out-of-control emotions.

Take A Break

“Taking a break” doesn’t mean giving up; it’s a timeout for when you’re emotionally exhausted and is one of the best self-care strategies you can have. Learn to recognize when you need to step away from a situation or from your own thoughts. Find a way to shift your focus to something pleasant (i.e. a romantic movie, a nature walk, a day trip to the beach, playing golf for a few hours, traveling to a different country, etc.)

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Create a Positive Experience

Doctors Foote, Wilkens, and Kosanke refer to this as “making it better,” not in the sense that you’re fixing the problem (or your loved one), but that you’re making the moment better by transforming a negative moment into a positive one. Suggested self-care strategies for creating a positive experience include the following:

  1. Half-smile. Another mind-body technique, half-smiling tricks your brain into feeling happier.
  2. Meditate or pray. As explained in Beyond Addiction, “meditation or pray is another word for – and effective channel to – awareness and acceptance. Either one can open doors to different states of mind and act as an emotional or spiritual salve in trying moments.”
  3. Move. By moving, you’re shifting your focus and releasing energy. Stretch, run, play volleyball, chop wood, move furniture, etc.
  4. Find meaning. The authors of Beyond Addiction wrote, “Suffering can make people more compassionate toward others. Having lived through pain, sometimes people are better able to appreciate moments of peace and joy.” Suffering can also inspire meaningful action. What can you do to find meaning?
  5. Borrow some perspective. How do your problems look from a different viewpoint? Ask a trusted friend. You may find that your perspective is causing more harm than good.

Perspective

Perspective is “an understanding of a situation and your reactions to it that allows you to step back and keep your options open… [it’s] seeing patterns, options, and a path forward” (Beyond Addiction).

When Trish married Dave nearly 20 years ago, he rarely drank: maybe an occasional beer over the weekend or a glass of wine at dinner. After their fist daughter was born, his drinking increased to a few beers most nights. Dave said it helped him relax and manage the stress of being a new parent.

By the time their second daughter was born several years later, his drinking had progressed to a six-pack of beer every evening (and more on weekends). Currently, Dave drinks at least a 12-pack of beer on weeknights; if it’s the weekend, his drinking starts Friday after work and doesn’t stop until late Sunday night.

Dave no longer helps Trish with household chores or yardwork as he did early in their marriage. He rarely dines with the family and won’t assist with the cooking/cleanup; he typically eats in front of the TV. Dave occasionally engages with his daughters, but Trish can’t recall the last time they went on a family outing, and it’s been years since they went on a date.

Dave struggles to get out of bed in the mornings and is frequently late to work; Trish is worried he’ll get fired. They frequently argue about this. Dave is irritable much of the time, or angry. Most nights, he doesn’t move from his armchair (except to get another beer) until he passes out with the television blaring.

Trish is frustrated; she believes Dave is lazy and lacks self-control. When she nags about his drinking, he promises he’ll cut back, but never follows through. Trish thinks he’s not trying hard enough. She can’t understand why he’d choose booze over her and the kids; sometimes she wonders if it’s because she’s not good enough… maybe he would stop if she was thinner or funnier or more interesting?  At times she feels helpless and hopeless and others, mad and resentful; she frequently yells at Dave. She wonders if things are ever going to change.  

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A different perspective would be to recognize that Dave has an alcohol use disorder. He feels ill most of the time, which affects his mood, energy level, and motivation. He wants to cut back, but fails when he tries, which leads to guilt and shame. To feel better, he drinks. It’s a self-destructive cycle.

If Trish understood this, she could learn to not take his drinking personally or question herself. Her current reactions, nagging and yelling, only increase defensiveness and harm Dave’s sense of self-worth. Alternative options for Trish might include learning more about addiction and the reasons Dave drinks, bolstering his confidence, and/or creating a supportive and loving environment to enhance motivation.

Triggers

In recovery language, a “trigger” is anything (person, place, or thing) that prompts a person with SUD to drink or use; it activates certain parts of the brain associated with use. For instance, seeing a commercial for beer could be triggering for a person with an alcohol use disorder.

You have triggers too. For example, if your loved one is in recovery for heroin, and you notice that a bottle of opioid painkillers is missing from the medicine cabinet, it could trigger a flood of emotions: fear, that your loved one relapsed; sadness, when you remember the agony addiction brings; hopelessness, that they’ll never recover. It’s crucial to recognize what triggers you and have a plan to cope when it happens. Being aware of your triggers is a self-care strategy.

Therapy & Support Groups

Lastly, self-care strategies such as therapy and/or support groups can be a valuable addition to your self-care regime. Seeing a therapist can strengthen your resilience and distress tolerance skills. Therapy may provide an additional avenue for perspective.

(Side note: A good therapist is supportive and will provide you with tools for effective problem-solving and communication, coping with grief and loss, building self-esteem, making difficult choices, managing stress, overcoming obstacles, improving social skills/emotional intelligence, and better understanding yourself. A good therapist empowers you. A bad therapist, on the other hand, will offer advice and/or tell you what to do, disempowering you.)

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Regarding support groups, there are many options for family members, friends, and significant others with a loved one who has a SUD, including Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, and Families Anonymous. Support groups provide the opportunity to share in a safe space and to receive feedback, suggestions, and/or encouragement from others who relate.


“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.”

Audre Lorde

In sum, self-care is not optional; it’s essential for surviving the addiction of a loved one. Self-care enhances both overall wellness and your ability to help your loved one; in order words, take responsibility for your health and happiness by taking care of yourself. Commit to engaging in at least one or two of the self-care strategies you learned about in this post.

For additional self-care strategies and more information on how you can help your loved one, visit The Center for Motivation and Change.

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350 Creative Ideas for Hobbies

Discover a new hobby with this diverse list of assorted leisure activities, which range from beekeeping to Kombucha brewing to knife throwing to ghost hunting.

I developed this list as part of a project I was working on and thought it would be worth sharing. (Click below for a PDF version of this list.)

PDF: List Of Hobbies


350 Ideas for Hobbies

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Animals & Nature Hobbies

  1. Attend pet shows (or horse shows)
  2. Beachcombing
  3. Beekeeping
  4. Berry or apple picking
  5. Bird watching
  6. Butterfly garden (Visit one or create your own!)
  7. Butterfly watching
  8. Be a plant parent; nurture and care for indoor plants
  9. Composting
  10. Dog training
  11. Dog walking
  12. Forest bathing
  13. Fossil hunting
  14. Grow and tend to a fruit tree
  15. Grow an indoor herb garden
  16. Grow plants from seedlings (and plant outside when in-season)
  17. Hang humming bird feeders and then sit back and enjoy the company!
  18. Horseback riding
  19. Become an expert at identifying various plants and/or insects
  20. Mushroom hunting
  21. Nature walks
  22. Adopt a pet
  23. Pet fostering
  24. Pet sitting
  25. Plant a flower bed
  26. Go on a swamp tour
  27. Tend to a vegetable garden
  28. Topiary
  29. Visit a farm
  30. Visit an aquarium
  31. Go to zoos and/or nature centers
  32. Watch wildlife on Animal Planet
  33. Go whale watching

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Arts & Crafts

  1. Drawing
  2. Candle making
  3. Collage making
  4. Coloring
  5. Crocheting
  6. Design your own greeting cards or stationary
  7. Flower arranging
  8. Foraging
  9. Glassblowing
  10. Jewelry making
  11. Knitting
  12. Lettering/calligraphy
  13. Mixed media art
  14. Mosaic making
  15. Origami
  16. Painting (watercolor, oils, acrylics, etc.)
  17. Paper crafts (including paper mâché)
  18. Photography
  19. Pressed flower craft
  20. Pottery
  21. Quilting
  22. Resin crafts
  23. Rock tumbling
  24. Scrapbooking
  25. Sculpting
  26. Sewing
  27. Sketching
  28. Soap making
  29. Weaving
  30. Wood carving

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Collection Hobbies

  1. Action figures
  2. Antiques
  3. Autographs
  4. Barbies™
  5. Books (classics, signed copies, etc.)
  6. Bookmarks
  7. Christmas tree ornaments
  8. Comics
  9. Fun socks
  10. Hot sauce from around the world
  11. Keychains
  12. Magnets
  13. Movie or music memorabilia
  14. Obsolete tech (i.e. outdated cell phones, tape players, etc.)
  15. Original artwork
  16. Plates
  17. Purses, shoes, and other accessories
  18. Recipes
  19. Records
  20. Retro video games
  21. Rocks and/or crystals
  22. Shells
  23. Souvenirs
  24. Sports memorabilia
  25. Stickers
  26. Ticket stubs
  27. Toys
  28. Vases
  29. Vintage items

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Cooking & Baking

  1. Baking
  2. Braising
  3. Bread making
  4. Cake decorating
  5. Canning
  6. Cheese making
  7. Coffee roasting
  8. Cookie decorating
  9. Grilling and BBQ
  10. Hosting dinner parties
  11. Kombucha brewing
  12. Learn ethnic and regional recipes
  13. Learn recipes from cooking shows
  14. Make “fun foods” for kids
  15. Make homemade ice cream
  16. Make jam or jelly
  17. Make your own beef (or vegan!) jerky
  18. Participate in competitive food festivals (or just go and enjoy the food!)
  19. Pasta making
  20. Pastry and confection making
  21. Pickling
  22. Pie making
  23. Raw diet meals
  24. Recreate menu items from your favorite restaurants
  25. Reduced fat cooking
  26. Sautéing
  27. Slow cooker meals
  28. Smoothie making
  29. Soup, sauce, and stock making
  30. Sushi making
  31. Take a cooking class
  32. Tea brewing
  33. Try new recipes on a regular basis
  34. Use an air fryer
  35. Use a dehydrator
  36. Use Pinterest for inspiration
  37. Vegan cooking
  38. Watch Food Network for inspiration

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Entertainment

  1. Attend movies, operas, plays, and musicals
  2. Bingo
  3. Board games and/or party games
  4. Card games
  5. Chess
  6. Strategy games
  7. Dine out at new restaurants
  8. Escape rooms
  9. Gaming
  10. Go to museums
  11. Go to poetry slams or open mic nights
  12. Jigsaw puzzles
  13. Karaoke
  14. Murder mystery shows
  15. Rage rooms
  16. Read entertainment/celebrity magazines
  17. See your favorite bands/artists perform live
  18. Standup comedy
  19. Theme parks
  20. Watch your favorite Netflix series, but make sure you become overly invested (borderline obsessed) with the storyline and characters in order for this to qualify as a legit hobby

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Home Improvement & DIY

  1. Add a backsplash to your kitchen
  2. Bathroom remodel
  3. Build a shed
  4. Build furniture
  5. Design a meditation room, home office, “man cave,” or “she shed”
  6. DIY headboard
  7. Fireplace makeover
  8. Hanging shelves
  9. Home organization
  10. Install smart home technology
  11. Kitchen remodel
  12. Paint an accent wall or update your entire home
  13. Paint old cabinets
  14. Redecorate a room
  15. Stencil or wallpaper
  16. Update a closet
  17. Update furniture
  18. Update lighting
  19. Use chalk paint or metallic spray paint

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Literature, Music, & Dance

  1. Acting
  2. Visit art galleries
  3. Attend literary fests
  4. Ballroom dancing
  5. Belly dancing
  6. Blogging/guest blogging
  7. Break dancing
  8. Editing
  9. Go to book signings
  10. Go to the library
  11. Join a book club (either in-person or online, e.g., Goodreads)
  12. Listen to music
  13. Play/learn an instrument
  14. Puppeteering
  15. Rapping
  16. Reading
  17. Sell your art on Etsy
  18. Singing
  19. Song writing
  20. Submit articles/opinion pieces/essays to magazines and newspapers
  21. Swing dancing
  22. Take a dance class
  23. Take a drama or improv class
  24. Take voice lessons
  25. Wikipedia editing
  26. Write a book
  27. Write poetry
  28. Write short stories

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Outdoor & Adventure

  1. ATV-ing
  2. Backpacking
  3. Boating
  4. Bouldering
  5. Bungee jumping
  6. Camping
  7. Canoeing
  8. Caving
  9. Cornhole
  10. Drone piloting
  11. Fishing
  12. Geocaching
  13. Go-Karting
  14. Hammocking
  15. Hiking
  16. Hot air ballooning
  17. Jump roping
  18. Kayaking
  19. Mountain biking
  20. Mountain climbing
  21. Obstacle courses
  22. Oversized lawn games
  23. Paddle boarding
  24. Parasailing
  25. Peak bagging
  26. Rocking climbing
  27. Sailing
  28. Scuba diving
  29. Skiing
  30. Skydiving
  31. Snorkeling
  32. Snowboarding
  33. Snowmobiling
  34. Snowshoeing
  35. Star gazing
  36. Stone skipping
  37. Trail running
  38. Tree climbing
  39. Waterskiing
  40. White water rafting
  41. Wilderness survival
  42. Zorbing

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Self-Improvement & Social Hobbies

  1. Advocate for a cause
  2. Attend support groups/meetings
  3. Attend workshops/conventions
  4. Bullet journaling
  5. Daily positive affirmations and/or self-reflection
  6. Join a club
  7. Join a gym
  8. Join a Meetup group
  9. Join a political campaign
  10. Journaling
  11. Keep a gratitude journal
  12. Listen to podcasts
  13. Make a vision board and update it regularly
  14. Meditation
  15. Read research
  16. Read self-improvement books
  17. Social media
  18. Stretching
  19. Take a class (i.e., a foreign language, computer class, etc.)
  20. Use a habit tracker app
  21. Volunteer
  22. Watch documentaries
  23. Watch inspirational Ted Talks
  24. Wear a fitness tracker
  25. Yoga
  26. Yoga with baby goats

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Competitive Sports

  1. Archery
  2. Badminton 
  3. Baseball
  4. Basketball
  5. Biking
  6. Body building
  7. Bowling
  8. Boxing
  9. Cricket
  10. Darts
  11. Disc golf/frisbee
  12. Fencing
  13. Fitbit step challenges
  14. Football/flag football
  15. Golf
  16. Gymnastics
  17. Hockey
  18. Hot dog eating
  19. Ice skating
  20. Jogging/running
  21. Knife throwing
  22. Lacrosse
  23. Laser tag
  24. Log rolling
  25. Martial arts
  26. Paintball
  27. Poker
  28. Racquetball
  29. Racing
  30. Roller derby
  31. Rugby
  32. Skateboarding
  33. Soccer
  34. Speed walking
  35. Surfing/body boarding
  36. Swimming
  37. Table football
  38. Table tennis
  39. Tennis
  40. Thai Chi
  41. UFC fighting
  42. Underwater rugby
  43. Volleyball
  44. Weightlifting
  45. Wheelbarrow racing
  46. Wrestling

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Travel

  1. Alaskan cruise
  2. All-inclusive resorts
  3. Antarctic cruise
  4. Around-the-world cruise
  5. Beach vacations
  6. Caribbean cruise
  7. Cross-country train trip
  8. Explore your home town and other nearby place as though you’re a tourist
  9. Guided group tours
  10. Mediterranean cruise
  11. River cruise
  12. Road trip
  13. See the Northern Lights
  14. Transatlantic cruise
  15. Travel to all the continents in the world
  16. Travel to all 50 states in America
  17. Trip to Las Vegas
  18. Visit the Grand Canyon
  19. Visit the New Seven Wonders of the World
  20. Visit the Seven Ancient Wonders of the World
  21. Go on city walking tours

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Miscellaneous Hobbies

  1. Astrology/astronomy
  2. Billiards
  3. Couponing
  4. Creating DIY home products
  5. Fantasy sports
  6. Genealogy
  7. Ghost hunting
  8. Hair styling/braiding
  9. Hula hooping
  10. Juggling
  11. Keeping up with the latest fashions
  12. Kite flying
  13. Learning magic tricks
  14. Makeup application
  15. Metal detecting
  16. Model building
  17. People watching
  18. Pumpkin chucking
  19. Storage unit auctions
  20. Sunbathing
  21. Unicycle riding
  22. Yard sale shopping/thrifting

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